Archive for DBM

NLP Can you model this? NLP Training?

Posted in 1, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , on December 22, 2009 by nlpwithed

A question for all NLP trainers – can you teach modelling?
Can you generate new NLP models? Can you give me an education in Modelling Behaviour through NLP?

Go on Youtube and contrast the answers of Richard Bandler and John Grinder ” What is NLP?” What a difference. Richard is a natural modeller, someone who can recover vital information quickly from a modelling subject.

You will notice John Grinder makes the clear distinction between Modelling and applications of modelling. So for instance theres modelling the Meta model and theres using the meta model. Two very different skills.

So if your thinking of going on a Master Practitioner Training – test the trainer out.

Can you show me a model you have created? Then test the model out – see how well it works.

Internalisation of……

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, Hypnosis, magical modelling, metaphorical modelling, mythical modelling, nlp, NLP Hypnosis with tags , , , , on December 20, 2009 by nlpwithed

The internalisation of experience is a key question in NLP and DBM

Internalisation of Pain
Internalisation of Success
Internalisation of Trauma
Internalisation of Significant events
Internalisation of Injury
Internalisation Spiritually

The subjectification of experience is a whole book in itself. NLP makes some attempt to model this through the use of submodalities and internal strategies. THis only covers a part of the process and does not explain the reasons as to why some humans internalise and others keep the experience objective (outside of themselves).

The experience can be something as simple as a theme tune or a personal calendar. To others it can be a personal trauma or significant event of meaning. The little girl who is congratulated by a teacher in such a way she can go searching for similar experiences for the rest of her life.

A rape victim can feel sullied by an experience and unable to connect again intimately with a lover.

We spend a great deal of lives as learners and students trying to internalise certain key leanings, even on occasions getting assistance from teachers (useful and less so ) to internalise various pieces of learning. Then there is a difference between basic information and pure experience.

So how do we internalise more usefully rather than take on the shit and discard the great stuff?

One key aspect is awareness and being sensitive to the internal impact of experience. How does it manifect, how often, how imposing, how useful, how much learning have I taken from this?

Is the internal representation a balanced example of the experience.
Positive, Negative, Neutral, Neutral.

What is the predominant aspect of the experience itself and the structure of that experience? It it a replay, a characature, a cartoon, a photo, continuous play etc.

What do you notice in terms of your feelings and evaluation of the experience?

Inside Non Verbal Signals

Posted in nlp, NLP Modeling, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Talk with tags , , , , , , , , on December 16, 2009 by nlpwithed

He that has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore. – Sigmund Freud

We display the truth about ourselves in silence, we communicate with the world in just being. Freud was right in what he said but the distortion in his words speaks volumes. Milton Erickson was a master in reading people from the way they presented before any verbal exchange.

In NLP congruence is a term to describe behaviour when all systems are aligned in terms of mind,body and behaviours. Internally and externally the message transmitted is consistent. You cannot describe yourself as confident with a shaky voice and be congruent.

Watch and listen carefully for inconsistencies and the degree of consistency in all behaviours.

Here are some things to listen for:-

A change in volume
Length of words

There is background, foreground and far background information available for self and other. What does it say about them?

Content What they say
Processing How they say it
Patterns Why they say it

Im dreaming of a Binge Christmas!

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, NLP Making Money, NLP Modelling, NLP Patterns & Techniques with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on December 16, 2009 by nlpwithed

Judging by talking to various people in the preparation for Xmas it is really easy to overeat, overbuy and overdo it generally. So what might help in terms of a strategy for control the binge in Christmas spending. The pressure and contagion that surrounds this period is really easy to get caught up in.

So using a DBM model (Developmental Behaviourial Modelling- a mouthful I know) here is a simple process to curb the festive indulgence:-

1. Do I like …………………?
2. Do I want………………..?
3. Do I need ……………..?
4. Do I really need ………?
5. How do you know you really need it?


1. Do they like …………………?
2. Do they want………………..?
3. Do they need ……………..?
4. Do they really need ………?
5. How do you know they really need it?

The sequence is important, the reverse pattern is for using in a sales pitch to chain the customer from a need to a like. Try it see how much you save !