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Inside Non Verbal Signals

Posted in nlp, NLP Modeling, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Talk with tags , , , , , , , , on December 16, 2009 by nlpwithed

He that has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore. – Sigmund Freud

We display the truth about ourselves in silence, we communicate with the world in just being. Freud was right in what he said but the distortion in his words speaks volumes. Milton Erickson was a master in reading people from the way they presented before any verbal exchange.

In NLP congruence is a term to describe behaviour when all systems are aligned in terms of mind,body and behaviours. Internally and externally the message transmitted is consistent. You cannot describe yourself as confident with a shaky voice and be congruent.

Watch and listen carefully for inconsistencies and the degree of consistency in all behaviours.

Here are some things to listen for:-

A change in volume
Tone
Tempo
Emphasis
Rhythm
Length of words
Sighs
Groans
Ummms
Speed
Smoothness

There is background, foreground and far background information available for self and other. What does it say about them?

Content What they say
Processing How they say it
Patterns Why they say it

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Modelling Live

Posted in emotrance, Hypnosis, nlp, NLP Hypnosis, NLP Talk, NLP Training with tags , , on April 27, 2009 by nlpwithed

I have just returned from The Emotrance Conference at Gatwick. It was really interesting. I was presenting on energy hypnosis for healers. A touch of mesmerism. What a nice group of people attended who had a great time, learning new energetic patterns and change techniques.

One of the most interesting things although there were many was a piece of modelling done in the moment by Silvia Hartmann. THe Eucharist pattern was created from one of the partcipant’s feedback during an exercise. How to find the sacred or key source in a simple everyday activity. ” What is the real need being fulfilled in having a cup of coffee, what is the ultimate individual motive for choosing a particular item or activity. What are you really going for?
A continental chocolate may represent a Eucharist as for one participant on the workshop.

Silvia has a knack of quickly calculating and identifying core patterns in listening to people.

It strikes me in this day and age we move away from meaning or our real needs and towards faster, cheaper and instant. Just look at the fashion with food and its availability.

Can you identify effective modellers in any field? Who can calculate patterns from human behaviour?

Another NLP Linguistic Change

Posted in NLP Language, NLP News, NLP Talk, NLP Training with tags , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

If someone keeps re-running an unhelpful memory. It is possible to interupt and scramble it. Stop them mid sentence – pattern interrupt, replay back and switch between different subjects, so say they are talking about splitting up with someone, fractionate between that and something pleasant or swish into something neutral and repeat. Or another technique is to change the linguistic sequence BUT is a powerful word “you lost your shirt BUT you live to fight another day”. The roof blew off AND now you can think about your next steps to move on….

Modelling Brass Balls

Posted in NLP Language, NLP Modelling, NLP News, NLP Talk with tags , , , , , , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

If Sir Freddie Goodwin appears on TV in the near future, watch him. He is the guy that has lost billions of pounds, whilst at the helm of the Royal Bank of Scotland. He has raped, the bank in salary, bonus and benefits, and then on top of that he has taken a top hat pension of £650,000 a year at age 50. He is Satan in a suit.

I shall be watching and waiting to model his brass balls, how does someone who has failed so miserably still hold their hand out for even more cash. Watch him carefully, I reckon we can learn a fair bit.

Making Money with NLP

Posted in Hypnosis, nlp, NLP Hypnosis, NLP Making Money, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Talk, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

In these difficult times, with recession, depression, slump and credit crunch and if we keep going, we can create such a negative sliding anchor, we could finish in a state of doom. This would not be useful , and in spite of the mass hypnosis provided by the media and politicians. We can create our own useful internal states using NLP.

I was thinking, what will be useful to generate to inoculate against any immanent financial problems. One thing is absolutely clear is that people are behaving generally from a position and state of fear, fear of scarcity, fear of uncertainty and fear of poverty. How would it be if you had nothing to fear, which you have not, unless you follow the crowd.

Just imagine yourself as a person full of abundant ideas and solutions, what does I feel like. Go back and find the time, where you were really creative, able to solve things, get things done. Provide value to your clients and customers. Really associate with that sense of abundance, notice where the feeling starts then where goes to, then loop it round, keep it spinning and keep it looping until it really intensifies. Then once it is strong enough, project it out into your future, project it out strongly, notice how it changes your plans and your sense of the future. Keep it going, stay connected. Start generating ideas.

Putting NLP into the NLP Technique

Posted in NLP Hypnosis, NLP Modelling, NLP News, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Reviews, NLP Talk, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

Take any NLP technique, and you have a sequence of instructions in a set order. For me NLP is much more than this, knowing that fixed technique is not enough, whether it be Change Personal History technique or the Fast phobia Cure technique. It is not about religiously sticking to a fixed protocol, it is more about understanding the client. Knowing the structure of the issue or problem, and then working to solve it calibrating from the feedback from their own responses.

Richard Bandler when training rarely repeats an NLP technique the same way twice. Richard will repeat it many times adding in variation, as well as much more of an intervention with a variety of other tools. So when we understand the NLP tools themselves, we can begin to formulate our own NLP techniques.

Every personal strategy that may be negative in one context can have a positive use in another arena. Take a compulsive shopper and apply the compulsion to say to keeping an office tidy or getting the ironing done. . Or you could just procrastinate. Instead of going out shopping, imagine all the hard work, the traffic, the queues, possibly having to take back a badly fitting pair of shoes. And then only to find you could have bought them £20 cheaper on a different side of town. One aspect of NLP is knowing what is useful for what and creatively applying a strategy to fit the best purpose.

Of course, you can only test whether a strategy is being replaced by applying to a real situation. . So if you still feel attracted to shopping for the shoes, .something else needs to change. . Once again, NLP submodalities is an excellent tool in creating a change. Which key submodality means you go to the shoes rather than staying at home. At one time going shopping is just a pain in the backside, now it seems a whole entertainment industry.

There are those people who run a meta programme, who just can’t have enough things and enjoy the activity of hunting for those things. We haven’t made the evolutionary step from hunting for our food and leaving hunting behind.

So to some extent, NLP is concerned with making a personal evolutionary step, so what kind of change, would you like to make?

Except From the Upcoming Recruitment book – The Perfect Fit

Posted in NLP Reviews, NLP Talk, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , , , , on February 24, 2009 by nlpwithed

NLP gives us with a framework and a model with which to understand human behaviour.Recruitment is a prime area to apply NLP.

NLP provides us with the methodology to model and learn new behaviours in recruitment and more generally in an organisational environment. Effective recruiters understand people. They know how they think and why they behave the way they do.

NLP presents an opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of what makes people the individuals they are. Most human behaviour is patterned, programmed and therefore predictable.

Neuro Linguistic Programming is a highly effective methodology based on the belief that all behaviour has a structure and this structure can be modelled, learned and changed. It is a study these patterns and programmes, and is designed to increase flexibility, effectiveness and ultimately the choice available to us.

In applying NLP to business and organisations we can gain deeper insights into how people function individually and in teams. We can increase our understanding of the patterns of communication and the behaviours that contribute to an average performance and an exceptional performance.

NLP provides us with the tools to make clear distinctions between the two, not just what is done consciously but also those behaviours that are unconscious. When we have collected this data, we have the basis of a new model. In recruitment, our task here is to discriminate between the average and the first rate.

When we know what contributes to our success in finding an ideal candidate within the specified organisation we are on the way to creating the Perfect Fit.