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What first attracted you to Millionaire Paul Daniels?

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, NLP Hypnosis, NLP Language, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , , on February 15, 2010 by nlpwithed

A Classic line from the Mrs Merton comedy chat show – where Caroline Ahern poses as elderly chat show host interviewing suspecting B listed celebrities. So Debbie McGee was caught in her web unable to escape from the presupposition that is loaded to the hilt.

Similar to the question; When did you stop beating your wife? or Would you prefer to go out with me to the cinema or for a meal? Some of these are hardly subtle but in a sequence and with a number of pre-suppositions building your choices can start to become limited.

How do you see yourself contributing to this valuable project? I know you have played an important part before.

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Inside Non Verbal Signals

Posted in nlp, NLP Modeling, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Talk with tags , , , , , , , , on December 16, 2009 by nlpwithed

He that has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore. – Sigmund Freud

We display the truth about ourselves in silence, we communicate with the world in just being. Freud was right in what he said but the distortion in his words speaks volumes. Milton Erickson was a master in reading people from the way they presented before any verbal exchange.

In NLP congruence is a term to describe behaviour when all systems are aligned in terms of mind,body and behaviours. Internally and externally the message transmitted is consistent. You cannot describe yourself as confident with a shaky voice and be congruent.

Watch and listen carefully for inconsistencies and the degree of consistency in all behaviours.

Here are some things to listen for:-

A change in volume
Tone
Tempo
Emphasis
Rhythm
Length of words
Sighs
Groans
Ummms
Speed
Smoothness

There is background, foreground and far background information available for self and other. What does it say about them?

Content What they say
Processing How they say it
Patterns Why they say it

Modelling Richard Bandler

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, Modelling Modelling, nlp, NLP News, NLP Stories, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , , , on December 13, 2009 by nlpwithed

About 9 years ago on a NLP modelling course near Tottenham Court Road in London. Richard Bandler, Paul Mckenna et all presented a NLP course on modelling. A lot of it was standard NLP however at one stage there was some modelling of Bobby Davro the comedian. McKenna and Breen were supposedly doing the official modelling and nothing remarkable was detailled by them.

However the next day Richard Bandler came on stage and gave a full download of what he had noticed. I wont give all the details here but one key point was that Richard had subjectively taken the position of Davro the previous evening. Davro had talked about the audiences perspective, Richard had followed him and paced each move. He had tested what was true for him in detail. It is technique for shortcutting to quick information about a subject. Matching position and physiology.

Real Life NLP

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, Modelling Modelling, nlp, NLP Language, NLP Modelling, NLP News, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Reviews with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on December 13, 2009 by nlpwithed

One of the issues with NLP is dealing with Real Life and the day to day issues including those in the public eye. Whilst politics is generally a personal thing, the dynamics and workings of politicians is useful territory to model. When you can watch an interview thats not rehearsed or with patsy questions then theres the feedback that can be used to develop and test your NLP skills.

For instance languaging, sensory acuity, calibration, personal strategies etc. So take Tony Blair being interviewed by Fern Britton today, not Paxman but then again he may be more easily caught offguard with a softer interviewing approach.

Here is an example of man who has shifted his ground and continues to shift to justify his position. He disassociates from the decision he took, “when you” rather than “when I”.

He is haunted by his decisions and seems he is using religion as a comfort and as a means to find some personal succour. He is sustained by his faith but then decides his faith will not help with the day to day decisions. He talks about frailty,humanity,feebleness as means of gaining strength. This presupposes he is searching for strength but is likely to feel weakened by going to war on the sketchiest of justifications.

Catholicism has become his natural home – he goes to access kinaesthetically – to deal with his feelings. An inference maybe that his faith as a structure was the basis of going into the Iraq War rather than reasoned judgement. He now promotes faith through his foundation, something he did whilst he was in power. You can argue misused power. He argues that society should be directed by its spiritual core?

God is also masculine in his model. Just watch Tony as he is questioned about the death of David Kelly -stunned and shocked!

Modelling Modelling

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, nlp, NLP Hypnosis, NLP Modeling, NLP Modelling, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Reviews with tags , , , , , on December 12, 2009 by nlpwithed

NLP was created out of a technology to model “Excellence”, that was the theory. Richard Bandler and John Grinder modelled some of the most skilled therapists they could find including Milton Erickson, Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir, Frank Farrelly, Gregory Bateson and others.

Much of the processes that were used remain unknown. Why? They did not have a complete technology and methodology to model their own approach. Having attended a number of the earlier NLP Master Practitioners it is clear that the modelling projects given were not supported with an integrated model to create a new model. Also the field of NLP has more or less stood still for the last 20 years with very few revisions. THe field is still reliant on those original developers to take it forward.

So for instance the thinking that created the various techniques and tools such as submodalities has not really been captured. The practise of sensory acuity on its own is not enough so what else is required?

Modelling Brass Balls

Posted in NLP Language, NLP Modelling, NLP News, NLP Talk with tags , , , , , , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

If Sir Freddie Goodwin appears on TV in the near future, watch him. He is the guy that has lost billions of pounds, whilst at the helm of the Royal Bank of Scotland. He has raped, the bank in salary, bonus and benefits, and then on top of that he has taken a top hat pension of £650,000 a year at age 50. He is Satan in a suit.

I shall be watching and waiting to model his brass balls, how does someone who has failed so miserably still hold their hand out for even more cash. Watch him carefully, I reckon we can learn a fair bit.

Making Money with NLP

Posted in Hypnosis, nlp, NLP Hypnosis, NLP Making Money, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Talk, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

In these difficult times, with recession, depression, slump and credit crunch and if we keep going, we can create such a negative sliding anchor, we could finish in a state of doom. This would not be useful , and in spite of the mass hypnosis provided by the media and politicians. We can create our own useful internal states using NLP.

I was thinking, what will be useful to generate to inoculate against any immanent financial problems. One thing is absolutely clear is that people are behaving generally from a position and state of fear, fear of scarcity, fear of uncertainty and fear of poverty. How would it be if you had nothing to fear, which you have not, unless you follow the crowd.

Just imagine yourself as a person full of abundant ideas and solutions, what does I feel like. Go back and find the time, where you were really creative, able to solve things, get things done. Provide value to your clients and customers. Really associate with that sense of abundance, notice where the feeling starts then where goes to, then loop it round, keep it spinning and keep it looping until it really intensifies. Then once it is strong enough, project it out into your future, project it out strongly, notice how it changes your plans and your sense of the future. Keep it going, stay connected. Start generating ideas.