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NLP Values and Valuing using NLP

Posted in 1, formal modelling, Modelling Modelling, natural modellin, natural modelling, NLP Language, NLP Modeling, NLP Modelling, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , , , on December 31, 2009 by nlpwithed

NLP is about modelling behaviour.
Modelling conscious and modelling unconscious behaviour.
Behaviour is dependent on motivation.
Motivation is highly influenced by a person’s values.

In modelling a person’s behaviour we need to elicit their values.
If we change our values we change our motivation (towards and away from)
If we change our motivation we change our behaviour.

Values are supported by our experience base usually through imprint experiences or significant emotional events.

Values are not single dimensional entities but work within a dynamic depending on the context and personal outcome. So we can also change the way we develop our context or the outcomes we persue consciously or unconsciously through modelling.

So whats important in doing this? Why are you doing this?
Why is this person doing this? We can observe, question or even test through modelling?

What would stop or change the outcome?

Some NLP trainers recommend you only need to make a decision to change your values. Thats not really the case if it was we could change our values to fit the situation, we obviously do not do that. So if we wanted to increase the value of compassion from self centred bigotry that would be difficult just on the basis of a decision.

The reasons and consequences should be modelled out on the basis of each value.


NLP Can you model this? NLP Training?

Posted in 1, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , on December 22, 2009 by nlpwithed

A question for all NLP trainers – can you teach modelling?
Can you generate new NLP models? Can you give me an education in Modelling Behaviour through NLP?

Go on Youtube and contrast the answers of Richard Bandler and John Grinder ” What is NLP?” What a difference. Richard is a natural modeller, someone who can recover vital information quickly from a modelling subject.

You will notice John Grinder makes the clear distinction between Modelling and applications of modelling. So for instance theres modelling the Meta model and theres using the meta model. Two very different skills.

So if your thinking of going on a Master Practitioner Training – test the trainer out.

Can you show me a model you have created? Then test the model out – see how well it works.

Real Life NLP

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, Modelling Modelling, nlp, NLP Language, NLP Modelling, NLP News, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Reviews with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on December 13, 2009 by nlpwithed

One of the issues with NLP is dealing with Real Life and the day to day issues including those in the public eye. Whilst politics is generally a personal thing, the dynamics and workings of politicians is useful territory to model. When you can watch an interview thats not rehearsed or with patsy questions then theres the feedback that can be used to develop and test your NLP skills.

For instance languaging, sensory acuity, calibration, personal strategies etc. So take Tony Blair being interviewed by Fern Britton today, not Paxman but then again he may be more easily caught offguard with a softer interviewing approach.

Here is an example of man who has shifted his ground and continues to shift to justify his position. He disassociates from the decision he took, “when you” rather than “when I”.

He is haunted by his decisions and seems he is using religion as a comfort and as a means to find some personal succour. He is sustained by his faith but then decides his faith will not help with the day to day decisions. He talks about frailty,humanity,feebleness as means of gaining strength. This presupposes he is searching for strength but is likely to feel weakened by going to war on the sketchiest of justifications.

Catholicism has become his natural home – he goes to access kinaesthetically – to deal with his feelings. An inference maybe that his faith as a structure was the basis of going into the Iraq War rather than reasoned judgement. He now promotes faith through his foundation, something he did whilst he was in power. You can argue misused power. He argues that society should be directed by its spiritual core?

God is also masculine in his model. Just watch Tony as he is questioned about the death of David Kelly -stunned and shocked!

Modelling Brass Balls

Posted in NLP Language, NLP Modelling, NLP News, NLP Talk with tags , , , , , , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

If Sir Freddie Goodwin appears on TV in the near future, watch him. He is the guy that has lost billions of pounds, whilst at the helm of the Royal Bank of Scotland. He has raped, the bank in salary, bonus and benefits, and then on top of that he has taken a top hat pension of £650,000 a year at age 50. He is Satan in a suit.

I shall be watching and waiting to model his brass balls, how does someone who has failed so miserably still hold their hand out for even more cash. Watch him carefully, I reckon we can learn a fair bit.

NLP and Political Correctness

Posted in NLP Hypnosis, NLP Language, NLP News, NLP Patterns & Techniques with tags , , , , , , , on February 25, 2009 by nlpwithed

I’ve just listened to debate this morning on political correctness, with Nicky Campbell. Hazel Blears, the Labour MP from Manchester, is giving a speech this evening 25th February. Personally, I cannot stand the woman, but maybe I’m not politically correct.

Just as a sub note it was interesting listening to the tone of voice and her diction compared to her normal output. Had she changed it because of the content of what she was delivering or because she was being challenged by Nicky as a person who has created a climate of political correctness.

Anyway, from my perspective, political correctness comes about because some people are too easily offended. They do not have the resources to deal with the flak coming their way. If every time we spoke, wrote or communicated and offended someone, life would be an extremely dull place. Most jokes would go out of the window.

So what NLP techniques would be useful in providing the resources for people to be more resilient. Some people are offended because their religion gets mocked, if they are so sure in themselves that they are right, why worry what anyone else thinks.

People sometimes feel they must defend the values that they stand for. Someone is attacking me or my values. It makes me feel bad.

If you literally take the emotion out of the situation and you can do this through a submodality shift or through taking a completely different perceptual position from the argument or discussion. For instance, just like you’re watching tennis match. if you concentrate on the structure rather than the content of the language then it becomes a whole different ballgame

Ramsay’s Kitchen Nightmares Modelled

Posted in NLP Hypnosis, NLP Language, NLP News, NLP Patterns & Techniques with tags , , , , , , , on February 25, 2009 by nlpwithed

Having been a fan of Gordon Ramsay’s kitchen nightmares, and recognising that he has a honed talent for transforming restaurants that are struggling.

I thought I would model, the basic process. It is surprising just how close some of it is similar to that used in NLP. If you can get past his confrontational style. He is sharp and has an acuity for all aspects of managing a restaurant and delivering a memorable experience. If at a high level, we see a strategy elicitation as modelling a short behavioural sequence, then this can be applied to groups or large chunks of behaviour.

Model Current State
Get the Customer Experience
Product Quality
Volume and Profitability
Presentation inc Premises
Go through the Process
Kitchen & Equipment – Cleanliness etc
Staffing & Capability
Menu (Offering)
Stock Control
Pricing & Cost
Calibrate to the area/location
Competitive Analysis
Set Challenge

In Your Face NLP VS Natural NLP

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, NLP Talk, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , on February 23, 2009 by nlpwithed

The other day and my friend asked me a question about NLP. He was concerned that a lot of practitioners or people who had trained at the practitioner training were very crude in their application of the material.

He said he had experience of the meta monsters and an “in your face” style of NLP people wanting to show off just how much they knew. He said this had put him off attending a training and did I know whether it was possible to train and practice NLP without a sense of arrogance.

I thought about this and wondered why it was so common for the feedback from non-NLPrs to have this experience.

I think there are a number of reasons; firstly some of the patterns are made explicit by the trainer out during the training, by utilising volume and inflection and also operating with an attitude. Secondly a good deal of NLP training uses power metaphors, these are sometimes translated as power over others rather than power over oneself. Thirdly some of the training is contextualised within the training room itself rather than some other natural applications beyond the training itself.

Some NLP students access state changes during the training that connect to the other material learned on the course.

I would contrast to that of the two cells of training is in-your-face NLP and naturalistic NLP.

In-your-face NLP

Natural NLP

Challenging style Pacing the other persons model of the world
Going for the position of domination and impact Going for affiliation and effectiveness
Demonstrates information rather than knowledge Deeper understanding
Dictating Communication
Crude Complexity applied simply
Sorting by self rather than the other person Neutral sorting preferences
Power over others Power through oneself
Ill fitting with the environment Best fit NLP tools to the circumstances
Fragmented knowledge Integrated with one’s own naturalistic patterns

The question therefore arises how can a training be designed so it is more likely to produce and naturalistic style of NLP rather than that of it being in-your-face.

Firstly there is no substitute for a thorough knowledge of the material and extensive practice. Recently there has been a fashion to reduce the number of training hours and the training requirements which means although NLP has become mainstream, the overall standard has fallen, due to numbers and lack of “flying time” .

Another key requirement would be to integrate any of the NLP patterns into the practitioner’s everyday environment.

The use of metaphors adopted by the training organisations likely to attract or repel certain people, the power metaphor certainly does not help. It seems strange that a field that has been developed to improve individual’s communication skills sometimes produces the opposite and simply delivers someone even more irritating than they were before.

One area of NLP that should enhance the communication between practitioner and client, or practitioner and public is the rapport model. Some trainers seem to teach this mechanistically rather than starting with the principles that underpin it. So if the practitioner is barking repeatedly at someone else is hardly surprising they failed to communicate unless they are dealing with an angry German Shepherd, and even then.

So we should have some fun when we are training but not just at other’s expense.

Curiosity and experimentation are key aspects to the attitude that goes with the good practitioner.

As Richard Bandler always says,” you go first” which means the practitioner applies the material to himself.