Archive for NLP applied

Inside Non Verbal Signals

Posted in nlp, NLP Modeling, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Talk with tags , , , , , , , , on December 16, 2009 by nlpwithed

He that has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore. – Sigmund Freud

We display the truth about ourselves in silence, we communicate with the world in just being. Freud was right in what he said but the distortion in his words speaks volumes. Milton Erickson was a master in reading people from the way they presented before any verbal exchange.

In NLP congruence is a term to describe behaviour when all systems are aligned in terms of mind,body and behaviours. Internally and externally the message transmitted is consistent. You cannot describe yourself as confident with a shaky voice and be congruent.

Watch and listen carefully for inconsistencies and the degree of consistency in all behaviours.

Here are some things to listen for:-

A change in volume
Tone
Tempo
Emphasis
Rhythm
Length of words
Sighs
Groans
Ummms
Speed
Smoothness

There is background, foreground and far background information available for self and other. What does it say about them?

Content What they say
Processing How they say it
Patterns Why they say it

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Modelling Richard Bandler

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, Modelling Modelling, nlp, NLP News, NLP Stories, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , , , on December 13, 2009 by nlpwithed

About 9 years ago on a NLP modelling course near Tottenham Court Road in London. Richard Bandler, Paul Mckenna et all presented a NLP course on modelling. A lot of it was standard NLP however at one stage there was some modelling of Bobby Davro the comedian. McKenna and Breen were supposedly doing the official modelling and nothing remarkable was detailled by them.

However the next day Richard Bandler came on stage and gave a full download of what he had noticed. I wont give all the details here but one key point was that Richard had subjectively taken the position of Davro the previous evening. Davro had talked about the audiences perspective, Richard had followed him and paced each move. He had tested what was true for him in detail. It is technique for shortcutting to quick information about a subject. Matching position and physiology.

Real Life NLP

Posted in Ed Grimshaw, Modelling Modelling, nlp, NLP Language, NLP Modelling, NLP News, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Reviews with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on December 13, 2009 by nlpwithed

One of the issues with NLP is dealing with Real Life and the day to day issues including those in the public eye. Whilst politics is generally a personal thing, the dynamics and workings of politicians is useful territory to model. When you can watch an interview thats not rehearsed or with patsy questions then theres the feedback that can be used to develop and test your NLP skills.

For instance languaging, sensory acuity, calibration, personal strategies etc. So take Tony Blair being interviewed by Fern Britton today, not Paxman but then again he may be more easily caught offguard with a softer interviewing approach.

Here is an example of man who has shifted his ground and continues to shift to justify his position. He disassociates from the decision he took, “when you” rather than “when I”.

He is haunted by his decisions and seems he is using religion as a comfort and as a means to find some personal succour. He is sustained by his faith but then decides his faith will not help with the day to day decisions. He talks about frailty,humanity,feebleness as means of gaining strength. This presupposes he is searching for strength but is likely to feel weakened by going to war on the sketchiest of justifications.

Catholicism has become his natural home – he goes to access kinaesthetically – to deal with his feelings. An inference maybe that his faith as a structure was the basis of going into the Iraq War rather than reasoned judgement. He now promotes faith through his foundation, something he did whilst he was in power. You can argue misused power. He argues that society should be directed by its spiritual core?

God is also masculine in his model. Just watch Tony as he is questioned about the death of David Kelly -stunned and shocked!

Modelling Brass Balls

Posted in NLP Language, NLP Modelling, NLP News, NLP Talk with tags , , , , , , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

If Sir Freddie Goodwin appears on TV in the near future, watch him. He is the guy that has lost billions of pounds, whilst at the helm of the Royal Bank of Scotland. He has raped, the bank in salary, bonus and benefits, and then on top of that he has taken a top hat pension of £650,000 a year at age 50. He is Satan in a suit.

I shall be watching and waiting to model his brass balls, how does someone who has failed so miserably still hold their hand out for even more cash. Watch him carefully, I reckon we can learn a fair bit.

Making Money with NLP

Posted in Hypnosis, nlp, NLP Hypnosis, NLP Making Money, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Talk, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

In these difficult times, with recession, depression, slump and credit crunch and if we keep going, we can create such a negative sliding anchor, we could finish in a state of doom. This would not be useful , and in spite of the mass hypnosis provided by the media and politicians. We can create our own useful internal states using NLP.

I was thinking, what will be useful to generate to inoculate against any immanent financial problems. One thing is absolutely clear is that people are behaving generally from a position and state of fear, fear of scarcity, fear of uncertainty and fear of poverty. How would it be if you had nothing to fear, which you have not, unless you follow the crowd.

Just imagine yourself as a person full of abundant ideas and solutions, what does I feel like. Go back and find the time, where you were really creative, able to solve things, get things done. Provide value to your clients and customers. Really associate with that sense of abundance, notice where the feeling starts then where goes to, then loop it round, keep it spinning and keep it looping until it really intensifies. Then once it is strong enough, project it out into your future, project it out strongly, notice how it changes your plans and your sense of the future. Keep it going, stay connected. Start generating ideas.

Putting NLP into the NLP Technique

Posted in NLP Hypnosis, NLP Modelling, NLP News, NLP Patterns & Techniques, NLP Reviews, NLP Talk, NLP Training with tags , , , , , , , on February 26, 2009 by nlpwithed

Take any NLP technique, and you have a sequence of instructions in a set order. For me NLP is much more than this, knowing that fixed technique is not enough, whether it be Change Personal History technique or the Fast phobia Cure technique. It is not about religiously sticking to a fixed protocol, it is more about understanding the client. Knowing the structure of the issue or problem, and then working to solve it calibrating from the feedback from their own responses.

Richard Bandler when training rarely repeats an NLP technique the same way twice. Richard will repeat it many times adding in variation, as well as much more of an intervention with a variety of other tools. So when we understand the NLP tools themselves, we can begin to formulate our own NLP techniques.

Every personal strategy that may be negative in one context can have a positive use in another arena. Take a compulsive shopper and apply the compulsion to say to keeping an office tidy or getting the ironing done. . Or you could just procrastinate. Instead of going out shopping, imagine all the hard work, the traffic, the queues, possibly having to take back a badly fitting pair of shoes. And then only to find you could have bought them £20 cheaper on a different side of town. One aspect of NLP is knowing what is useful for what and creatively applying a strategy to fit the best purpose.

Of course, you can only test whether a strategy is being replaced by applying to a real situation. . So if you still feel attracted to shopping for the shoes, .something else needs to change. . Once again, NLP submodalities is an excellent tool in creating a change. Which key submodality means you go to the shoes rather than staying at home. At one time going shopping is just a pain in the backside, now it seems a whole entertainment industry.

There are those people who run a meta programme, who just can’t have enough things and enjoy the activity of hunting for those things. We haven’t made the evolutionary step from hunting for our food and leaving hunting behind.

So to some extent, NLP is concerned with making a personal evolutionary step, so what kind of change, would you like to make?

NLP and Political Correctness

Posted in NLP Hypnosis, NLP Language, NLP News, NLP Patterns & Techniques with tags , , , , , , , on February 25, 2009 by nlpwithed

I’ve just listened to debate this morning on political correctness, with Nicky Campbell. Hazel Blears, the Labour MP from Manchester, is giving a speech this evening 25th February. Personally, I cannot stand the woman, but maybe I’m not politically correct.

Just as a sub note it was interesting listening to the tone of voice and her diction compared to her normal output. Had she changed it because of the content of what she was delivering or because she was being challenged by Nicky as a person who has created a climate of political correctness.

Anyway, from my perspective, political correctness comes about because some people are too easily offended. They do not have the resources to deal with the flak coming their way. If every time we spoke, wrote or communicated and offended someone, life would be an extremely dull place. Most jokes would go out of the window.

So what NLP techniques would be useful in providing the resources for people to be more resilient. Some people are offended because their religion gets mocked, if they are so sure in themselves that they are right, why worry what anyone else thinks.

People sometimes feel they must defend the values that they stand for. Someone is attacking me or my values. It makes me feel bad.

If you literally take the emotion out of the situation and you can do this through a submodality shift or through taking a completely different perceptual position from the argument or discussion. For instance, just like you’re watching tennis match. if you concentrate on the structure rather than the content of the language then it becomes a whole different ballgame