NLP Values and Valuing using NLP

NLP is about modelling behaviour.
Modelling conscious and modelling unconscious behaviour.
Behaviour is dependent on motivation.
Motivation is highly influenced by a person’s values.

In modelling a person’s behaviour we need to elicit their values.
If we change our values we change our motivation (towards and away from)
If we change our motivation we change our behaviour.

Values are supported by our experience base usually through imprint experiences or significant emotional events.

Values are not single dimensional entities but work within a dynamic depending on the context and personal outcome. So we can also change the way we develop our context or the outcomes we persue consciously or unconsciously through modelling.

So whats important in doing this? Why are you doing this?
Why is this person doing this? We can observe, question or even test through modelling?

What would stop or change the outcome?

Some NLP trainers recommend you only need to make a decision to change your values. Thats not really the case if it was we could change our values to fit the situation, we obviously do not do that. So if we wanted to increase the value of compassion from self centred bigotry that would be difficult just on the basis of a decision.

The reasons and consequences should be modelled out on the basis of each value.

Inside Non Verbal Signals

He that has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore. – Sigmund Freud

We display the truth about ourselves in silence, we communicate with the world in just being. Freud was right in what he said but the distortion in his words speaks volumes. Milton Erickson was a master in reading people from the way they presented before any verbal exchange.

In NLP congruence is a term to describe behaviour when all systems are aligned in terms of mind,body and behaviours. Internally and externally the message transmitted is consistent. You cannot describe yourself as confident with a shaky voice and be congruent.

Watch and listen carefully for inconsistencies and the degree of consistency in all behaviours.

Here are some things to listen for:-

A change in volume
Tone
Tempo
Emphasis
Rhythm
Length of words
Sighs
Groans
Ummms
Speed
Smoothness

There is background, foreground and far background information available for self and other. What does it say about them?

Content What they say
Processing How they say it
Patterns Why they say it

Modelling Richard Bandler 2

So what else was present in Richards modelling on that day

1) He paid close attention (acuity) towards the gestures of the subject.Evidenced in the feedback and reference to it.

2) All information provided was useful in terms of modelling and noticing patterns, not just the immediate skill set that is being modelled.

3) Richard was switched on to patterns in terms of the structure oh how Bobby Davro presented about what he really wanted to do with his life.

4) Richard switched into the level of congruence of the subject, notice for meaning and what matters. Richard makes connections between the language used and physiology.

5) Richard not caught up in personal content of Bobby but more around the structure and patterns

6) Fast distillation of modelling content. Rapid output from Richard with the minimum amount of detail to support but valid evidence nonetheless.

7) Richard working within the modelled subject and I would hypothesize alongside the subject

Modelling Modelling

NLP was created out of a technology to model “Excellence”, that was the theory. Richard Bandler and John Grinder modelled some of the most skilled therapists they could find including Milton Erickson, Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir, Frank Farrelly, Gregory Bateson and others.

Much of the processes that were used remain unknown. Why? They did not have a complete technology and methodology to model their own approach. Having attended a number of the earlier NLP Master Practitioners it is clear that the modelling projects given were not supported with an integrated model to create a new model. Also the field of NLP has more or less stood still for the last 20 years with very few revisions. THe field is still reliant on those original developers to take it forward.

So for instance the thinking that created the various techniques and tools such as submodalities has not really been captured. The practise of sensory acuity on its own is not enough so what else is required?